Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World

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God built us to be in⁠ close-knit community, where we support and fight relentlessly for one another. Many of us dream of having a group of friends we can share everything with – the good and the bad. Sadly, the enemy is doing everything in his power to ensure that we remain divided and isolated. We must do our utmost to fight against him by building villages that serve as centers for spreading God’s love. To do that, we need to find and keep our people by following five simple rules: being in close proximity to one another, going deep, staying accountable, finding a shared mission, and resolving conflict.

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As I got older, though, that didn’t turn out to be the case. It didn’t stop me from trying, though: I needed all these types of friends, because society told me I did, so I clung to the people I met who even remotely fit these descriptions like hard-won Girl Scout badges, no matter how unhealthy the dynamic was, as proof I could do it. I could be just like everyone else in this one way, since I couldn’t be like everyone else who had perfect families. (Please see my first book: How to Be Alone.) That was very much out of my hands. But friendships? I could do that. Contort myself to make a bunch of people like me and never leave? Can’t wait! There’s no way you could go wrong when that is your very upsetting view of friendship! If it’s a group that meets in real life, volunteer your home for a meeting or offer to help out at an event; if it’s one person, invite him or her out to partake in the interest you share. You may feel awkward, but that’s okay. Awkward just means you’re stretching yourself. 5. Be honest and present.

I respect Jennie Allen, but this book bothered my conscience at times. There was a large amount of biblical truth in this book, and her practical tools were helpful, but at times I felt like Jennie Allen was out of touch with her audience and, to be frank, insensitive and prideful. I had a few big issues with this book: I have such a different lifestyle than Allen, who leads church groups and has a large social circle. Most of the book was not very helpful for me personally, but I will make an effort to look for more possible friends among people close by and to put in the 150 hours or whatever she said you needed to move towards close friendships with more people. All in all, I could have gotten that from a few sentences though instead of reading the whole book. Others will find it much more useful, I'm sure.

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The Internet is a great place to start looking for your community, but it’s simply one way to find your people. I really thought I’d have friends by now. Don’t get me wrong, I have people I talk to who I really like. I have people I laugh with and see once every six months, people who text me and say we should do something soon, and we might even make plans, but then we each hope the other will cancel because we’re both tired. I have those, yes. But I really thought I’d have friends by now, in the way I understood friendship to mean as a child. Maybe you learn the thrill of white water rafting. You might find that a minimalist lifestyle resonates with you. Perhaps you realize that you want to start your own business.My dear friend Jennie Allen shows ushow to make true emotional connections with the right peopleso that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way For this generation Jennie Allen is the vulnerable voice we need, and with Find Your People she has provided a beacon-illuminated map that is as practical as it is inspiring. Read this and find your people. Read this and find the life you have been hungering and thirsting for. Read this and find Jesus.” —Curt Thompson, MD, author of The Soul of Desire and The Soul of Shame

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Once you’ve met people that you feel you want to connect to, practice being brave enough to be open about that with them. Let’s say that your friend said something hurtful the last time you met up. Your rational mind gave her the benefit of the doubt because she was also hurting at the time.There are a lot of books that tell you why you’re lonely, why you shouldn’t be lonely, why you should love people, etc. etc. Jennie Allen tells you how to practically do the thing. Unfortunately, this description applies to a lot of people. According to research done by the health insurance company Cigna, more than three in five Americans report being chronically lonely.